Friday, June 29, 2012

Good Books Every Woman Should Read


Women like books. We know this. We know it from the statistics -- according to an often cited study by the publishing research firm Bowker, women bought 64 percent of all books sold in 2009 -- from the runaway popularity of female book clubs, and from our own lives. Try just mentioning one of your favorite books the next time you're with a group of female friends. Whether it's "Little Women," "The Bell Jar," or your favorite Judy Blume, someone in the group is almost guaranteed to recognize it and say something along the lines of "god, I looooved that boooook." Which may devolve -- no, evolve -- into a conversation about all the books you've mutually loved and when you read them and why they moved you at that time in your life. It'll be an instant "love, loss and what I read" party. Please do try this at home.
If you play this game for long enough, a few titles will probably emerge as books every woman would benefit from reading. That's what happened in our office this week. Inspired by the Frisky's list of "22 Books Every Woman Needs To Read," we asked the female staff of the Huffington Post which books they consider essential reading for women. Flip through our choices below. They're not in any order, and this is not meant to be a comprehensive list. Instead we hope you'll help us round it out. If you have a suggestion of your own, please email the title and why women should read it to women@huffingtonpost.com.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Alpha Females - Could women have prevented the economic downturn?


As we pick through the wreckage, how can gender help us rebuild a stronger house?

By: Kat Dufresne
Call her the “Alpha Female”: inspiring, confident, bold yet feminine, tough, honest and authentic.
 Ask a scientist, they’ll tell you it’s all down to subtle differences in the way the male and female brain works: women possess a unique and powerful skill set when it comes to communication, intuition, the ability to nurture and empathize with others. What is now undeniable is that the same traits used over countless generations to parent can be applied to management of people and large corporations.
 These subtle differences, and the benefits they can accrue in the corporate world, have historically taken a back seat to more purportedly “male” traits such as aggression, competition, self-assertion, self-confidence, and self-reliance. Looking at the 2008 market meltdown, many are asking if that’s such a good thing after all.
 And indeed, that slavish adherence to the macho market trader model may be changing. The 2008 crash, which brought the global financial system to the edge of doom, has since provoked much soul searching about the lessons to be learned and how such a disaster can be avoided.
 WritesPaceUniversity’s Darren Rosenblum in Feminizing Capital: A Corporate Perspective: “Gendered understandings of economic relations have surfaced, with some arguing that testosterone encourages excessive greed in boom cycles and fear in bust cycles.”
 OnWall St.and further afield, corporate boards are starting to wake up to women’s masterful ability to manage as a valuable tool in the upper echelons of corporate management, one that can help shape business culture and in turn boost the bottom line. These differences in approach – and their enlighteningly complementary nature – may be enough to warrant a quota system to change the balance of power around the top table, according to top European Union officials.
 The European Commissioner of Internal Markets Michel Barnier said earlier this year he wasn’t opposed to Europe-wide quotas for women in the board rooms of publicly traded companies.
 “Women have a collective interest in advancing and ways of dealing and thinking that are more long term,” said Patricia Bradshaw associate professor of organization studies atYorkUniversity. “Women’s connection to the generations means they bring an empathy and capacity to look long term that the short-term bottom line focus overlooks.”
 Aside from the longer-term view, women are seen as being much stronger on corporate oversight than their male colleagues, with a greater attention to detail.
 Professor Daniel Ferreira of the London School of Economics found women at the board level had a better attendance record than their male counterparts and were more involved in corporate life through various subcommittees.
 Addressing a Women of Influence Corporate Power Player series, Canadian Tire Corporation chair Maureen Sabia told of her experience as the only woman at the table in her first board meeting.
 Sabia said she was immediately struck by the fact that the CEO, who was often the chairman of the board, expected the directors to rubber stamp management’s recommendations. This state of affairs, she says, created a dependency on management, the very people the board of directors was supposed to oversee and evaluate.
 “I can vividly remember in my early days on the board having the temerity to express an opposing point of view, and I asked that it be recorded in the minutes,” she recalls. “Well, the hostile response I had from the chairman – who loftily informed me that such dissent had never been recorded before and would not be now – really (made for) an interesting afternoon. I hasten to tell you however that my dissent wasrecorded, in part because I insisted on it and in part because the general counsel came to my aid and reminded the chairman that every director had the right to have his or her vote recorded. And in those days, for that man, it was a career-limiting move.”
 (Then with characteristically dry and self-deprecating wit, she acknowledged in question period that “There are boards I’d love to sit that I think I’d be too big a nuisance for.”)
 In the LSE study, companies with weak corporate governance in particular benefited from having more women on the board, with attention to pay and bonuses particularly strong. “More and more, compensation packages are being tied to performance,” Sabia says. “The setting of individual targets and holding those people accountable for meeting those targets. Even if the company does extremely well, you may not be  getting that bonus.”
 Susan Tose Spencer, a former general manager of the Philadelphia Eagles and entrepreneur whose companies have combined revenue of $50 million says there are 12 different character traits that women bring to a business that can boost corporate success.
 She agreed with Ferreira in that one of those is attention to detail and oversight.
 “Women do their homework,” she said.
 Though perhaps more importantly, Spencer said women have a more intuitive management style and are able to empathize with their staff in a way that generates trust and loyalty.
 “Women are able to communicate in a very special way, not just with our mouths but with our body language, our faces,” she said. “We listen and can remember what was said and it’s clear that it’s a skill set that women have that men do not.”
 “If you come out of a meeting and ask a man and a woman about what happened you will get different answers. Women have a tremendous edge when it comes to connection.”
 She said at the end of the day, the ability to empathize doesn’t necessarily mean she will act differently from her male colleague, but she is likely to have found a deeper connection with her team. This makes her more inclusive in her style and more willing to adopt a collaborative approach. And ultimately that has been proven to be a more effective way of problem solving. Scott Page, an economist at theUniversityofMichigan, has used mathematical models to prove a diverse group will solve a complicated business problem better than a homogeneous group.
 So, to the key question – now frequently debated in the media – of whether or not the 2008 market meltdown would have happened with a greater female presence in senior management. Would they have been less risk-averse and less inclined to overlook discrepancies in the pursuit of profit?
 “They certainly would have asked a lot more questions,” Spencer said. “Men do not want to show their ignorance. Women will intuitively ask the right questions.”
 It’s possible that the willingness to ask the right questions and challenge the status quo that women bring to the boardroom is likely to be a much more valued commodity in top management.
 “Women can bring a different perspective,” said Patricia Bradshaw, associate professor of organization studies atYorkUniversity. “I really believe that boards should play the role of loyal opposition, they can no longer be the chummy boys’ club where the board and chief executive agree about everything just because they golf together, they need someone to challenge the assumptions.” And where they stand three or more strong, women are poised to stare boldly across the boardroom table and ask the tough questions.

Friday, June 1, 2012

Women & Girls Lead!

  • Women hold only 3% of clout positions in the mainstream media (telecommunications, entertainment, publishing and advertising).
  • Women comprise 7% of directors and 13% of film writers in the top 250 grossing films.
  • The United States is 90th in the world in terms of women in national legislatures.
  • Women hold 17% of the seats in the House of Representatives (the equivalent body in Rwanda is 56.3% female).
  • Women are merely 3% of Fortune 500 CEOs.
  • About 25% of girls will experience teen dating violence.
  • The number of cosmetic surgical procedures performed on youth 18 or younger more than tripled from 1997 to 2007.
  • Among youth 18 and younger, liposuctions nearly quadrupled between 1997 and 2007 and breast augmentations increased nearly six-fold in the same 10-year period.
  • 65% of American women and girls report disordered eating behaviors.


Monday, January 2, 2012

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE: Then: 1950's and Now 2012

How To Be A Good Wife: Then (1950's) And Now (2012)

The following is supposedly an excerpt from a 1950's high school home-economics textbook:
    •  Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal -- on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
    • Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.  
    • Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.  
    • Prepare the children: take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.  
    • Minimize all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.  
    • Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
    • Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
    • Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
    • The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Now: 2012 (Shannon's Version)
Have dinner ready: if possible, put whatever you can into the crock pot and have it on simmer so it's ready when you both get home from a long day of work. If possible, have the kids have the dinner table set and away you go to have a nice dinner! If they're old enough to make it and home before you are, even better! They have to learn how to cook sometime for when they're going to leave the house. If not, what's on the takeout/delivery menu OR if hubby is home first, ask what he's cooking.
Prepare yourself: you've had a long hard day at work or scheduling play dates, etc with the kids. Take at least 15 minutes to yourself if hubby's home and let him have the opportunity of catching up with the kids while you gather your thoughts and have some "me" time. If you can't have quiet time at home, just excuse yourself, go grab a Timmy's or Starbucks tea, juice or coffee and take a quick drive to a park or waterfront. Have a meditation CD playing quietly or just enjoy the silence.
Clear Away The Clutter: ah, everyone should take care of themselves. If they put it there, they can clean it up too. You're not a maid and they all have to learn responsibility and cleaning up! Make a chore list and have everyone scheduled to do certain chores. If you can afford it, hire a maid and you're helping to support another person and their business while they help make your life easier.
Minimize all noise: Ask Johnny to turn down the ear buds that is blaring his music and probably destroying his ear drums. Otherwise, everyone should run up to you (or dad) when you come home. If there's music on in the background, dance and say "oh yeah, let's celebrate - I'm home!" If hubby's home, great! If hubby's not home, great! Enjoy that one on one time with the kids or, just take that moment again for yourself.
Listen to him: well, if he's only going to grunt a few words when he comes home, then it won't take long. If you have to, grab a glass of wine so you can swish it in your mouth and preoccupy your mind

Make The Evening His: Go out with the girls for a "girl's night" or lock yourself in your bathroom with wine, candles, a good book and bubbles. I'm sure he can find something of his own to do. Get him the new "Maxim" or tell him the remote is all his for the night.

The Goal: to get through the fast paces that life has to offer on a daily basis with as much sanity as you can....all the while feeling a sense of accomplishment, purpose and hopefully hearing the words "thanks", "I love you mom", "I love you honey" and "you're the best"...even if you have to pat yourself sometimes. Everyone else will come around.
Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Sunday, January 1, 2012

It's A New Dawn, It's a New Day, It's a New Life...

Birds flying high you know how I feel. Sun in the sky you know how I feel. Breeze driftin' on by you know how I feel...

It's a new dawn

It's a new day

It's a new life

For me

And I'm feeling good




As you journey in your life, you choose from among many paths and as you know, there are many forks on each of those paths. Side roads can compel and illuminate you or they can discourage and sidetrack you, take you off course. While some of those choices lead you to bumpy ones and mislead you there are others that can be smooth and calm. Some decisions you make and re-make, repeat, repeat, repeat. Admit it to yourself and be honest, how many paths have lead you to discouragement? How many have lead you to an absolute peace and contentment?


In addition to becoming more conscious of your decisions, now become aware of your decision-making process and ask yourself, "why do you make them?". As you increase your awareness of how you decide and how the actions follow your choices, enhance your understanding of the choice, or rather choices themselves. What drives you to make those decisions? What motivates (or un-motivates) you?


Now, this is totally personal. You do not need to justify yourself to anyone...ever. This is YOUR time of self-reflection. Reflect on your own personal experiences over the last year, consider some decisions you've chosen to make. In addition to those decisions, did you make them freely or were you forced to make any of those decisions? How exactly did you make them? Remember, in this journey, don't criticize or over-analyze which is something, as a society we tend to do. Just reflect. Now think about how you're going to make a conscious decision to move forward. 


Your decision, your choice alone. Your life. Only get one shot at living a life right? Make it count.


To move forward, you must let go of old paradigms. Let go of rules and whatever decision-making processes you've made in the past if they weren't successful ones. A perfect example for most people it making decisions based on fear, remove that from your life and make it become obsolete. There has to be a shift and an old paradigm and an old way of thinking. To go forward and propel you, what you really need to do is create something special and shift that to a new paradigm, new rules, a new way of thinking.


To live in the new paradigm, you must become more aware, more conscious in all aspects of your life. It's a time of enlightenment, of lightening up, of light. Don't let fear or the old paradigm take over. Eyes forward and persevere. It's going to feel different but what you need to know is that when you get past that hurdle, with it comes freedom. Freedom accompanies enlightenment and with enlightenment comes Empowerment. That empowerment takes you to a higher level. If you ever feel the old paradigm take over, don't judge yourself, don't criticize yourself and don't give up. Let the new way of thinking set back in and envision what you want to achieve. It will take practice and then what will happen is by listening to yourself and setting new standards, you'll find an inner peace. 


It's a new dawn, it's a new day...now feel good (and keep it that way!)


Much success in health, wealth and happiness....






Saturday, December 31, 2011

Renting Vs Buying Real Estate - Evaluating - Part 2


Renting vs Buying Real Estate - is it right for YOU (PART 2)

Ok, so now you've considered your options and want to explore this buying a home thing more. Why not? More and more people are making that decision and traditional ways of waiting until marriage or having a partner. Even if in a relationship/married, perhaps you wanted to  have more time together first, pay off student debts, travel, or whatever your personal situation. It doesn't matter when and it's about being smart and analyzing whether it is or isn't good for your personal needs.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with renting and current lower vacancy rates here in Barrie (and Ontario-wide) are showing that more people are preferring this. So is home ownership over-rated? There's value in both methods and again, it's all about you whatever your lifestyle dictates. There are many programs available so let's look into no money down and rent to own which are many questions we get asked as well.

So, considering the ads with the Zero Down Payment Mortgage? Before you get sucked in and give your information, know what the requirements are. Always remember, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

What you need to know: Credit Score Requirements
To qualify for a no down payment mortgage you need a credit score of at least 680. You are likely to have a 680 credit score if you pay credit cards and other loans on time, and there are no bill collections in your name. You will need to have three (3) years of consecutive employment in order to qualify for a zero down payment mortgage.

A no-down payment Mortgage is not for everyone. Please discuss your personal financial situation with your broker to get informed about this product - and find out if it's right for you. A no-down payment Mortgage is also known as a cash-back Mortgage. This product can also be used to help with mortgage closing costs - or for other things around the house such as furniture, repairs or appliances. Again, it's not for everyone and if you're not good at budgeting, and you also need to know whether the home qualifies (not overprices and will appraise for the value). You're also not going to have instant equity if not putting any money into it so if you need to resell for whatever reason in a shorter amount of time, well, you're not making money either.

How Down Payments Affect your Mortgage and Mortgage Size
  • Your down payment is used to determine the maximum price of a home you can afford
  • Your down payment will have an effect on your mortgage size and mortgage payments: 
  • The more money you put down, the smaller your mortgage and the smaller your payments will be.
  • Your down payment also determines the amount of CMHC insurance you pay: 
  • As stated above, a down payment of less than 20% forces a CMHC mortgage default insurance requirement. The cost of the insurance will fluctuate depending on the size of the down payment for your mortgage.

How can you finance your down payment?
Besides traditional saving methods, or the sale of personal assets, various methods of obtaining money for your down payments exist. One of these methods is the Home Buyers' Plan (HBP). It is a program that allows you to withdraw up to $25,000 from your registered retirement savings plan (RRSPs) to buy or build a a home.

The Canada Revenue Agency outlines the Home Buyers' Plan (HBP) as a program that allows you to withdraw up to $25,000 from your registered retirement savings plan (RRSPs) to buy or build a qualifying home for yourself or for a related person with a disability .

Your RRSP contributions must remain in the RRSP for at least 90 days before you can withdraw them under the HBP, or they may not be deductible for any year.

Generally, you have to repay all withdrawals to your RRSPs within a period of no more than 15 years. You will have to repay an amount to your RRSPs each year until your HBP balance is zero. If you do not repay the amount due for a year, it will have to be included in your income for that year.

Forms and publications


RENT TO OWN
You see all the ads, have heard about it and wonder if this is a consideration. Sure, everything is a consideration if it gets you one step closer to your goals. We're here to help educate you and decide what program is or isn't right for you. Fortunately, we work with a lot of investors and mortgage brokers that offer many variations of programs available to people that choose to work with us and seek assistance. 

The most important things to know about rent to own?
  • it's not for everybody
  • it must be a win/win
  • must be disciplined or be willing to learn to be disciplined about monthly payments because it's forcing you to save for a downpayment if you're not already able to do so
  • it's not for everybody
  • must be a win-win
That's right. Intentionally said those twice because that's the only type of clientele we work with. Those that analyze each scenario on a case by case basis to make it beneficial to you, the home buyer and the investor wanting to help you. That's right. The investor purchasing the home to help you be able to buy it and get you one step closer to home ownership that you've only dreamed about. 

Not going to mislead you. It is a business and there is an invested interest for the investor of course because there are books out there, courses and online resources teaching people to get on the "rent to own" bandwagon. This is why we interview our investors to find out their intentions of wanting to offer rent to own programs. Yes, we turn people away and only work with a select, elite few and must be referred to us. Why? Here's why...

You've never owned a home before or have owned but got into a financial situation and think rent to own is a good option for you. You seek us out for information and develop a trust. You want to own a home so badly and will practically do anything (legal of course) to get it. Perhaps you may not read the papers before you sign and willing to borrow from anyone to get whatever down payments are necessary so you can be a home owner. We can honestly tell you, this is not the way to be at all. You're setting yourself up to fail before you've even started and actually this is taking you further away from your goal of home ownership. You lose time, money, effort and give yourself even more stress that you bargained for. 

If you've never owned a home before, how do you understand those legal documents? You're trusting someone to explain them to you that have an invested interest because they're making commission or sale right? Realtors are governed to be ethical and have a business standards of course. However, there's also the obligation to inform you of everything and probably a good idea to have a conditional clause that you have the right to have reviewed by a lawyer. That's what the professionals are trained for and really important for you to know your rights and entitlements.

After typing, realize rent to own is a whole other topic. So let's make a Part 3 and call this a series!

Happy investing in you and happy new year!

*not intended to solicit anyone with any written agency agreements. This blog is intended to provide information for educational purposes only


Sources:
Canada Revenue Agency

Friday, December 30, 2011

New Year - New Fitness Regime - New You - Stick With It! Here's a Plan How

Can't believe I have missed out on this site but love it! SquawkFox.com  "where frugal living is sexy, delicious and fun". It's a great site to find valuable information not only on finance/wealth but health too! It's created by Kerry K. Taylor and below is her bio and you can find her page on Facebook as well.

(bio: Kerry K. TaylorKerry strives to make frugal living sexy, delicious, and fun. She is the author of the book '397 Ways to Save Money' and is the creator of Squawkfox.com. Kerry is also a two-time Ironman triathlon finisher who resides in B.C.)


You're probably putting together your New Year's Resolutions and one of those most notably, will be fitness. So, all credit to her as she created this workout log.


Here's her input on how to use the Workout Log and how it can help you get fit:
  • Stay frugal by tracking your fitness for free.
  • Easily track weekly and daily workouts.
  • Monitor fitness goals and achievements.
  • Get trim, slim, and fit by honestly logging your exercise sessions.
  • Keep a pulse on weight fluctuations, heart rates, and energy levels.
  • Plan daily workout schedules.
  • Track time spent exercising, distance traveled, and workout intensity.
  • Have fun with fitness by using an attractive workout log or exercise log sheet. 
This two-page free printable exercise log covers a whole week. So keep yourself motivated by tracking your weekly fitness goals, hours of exercise, and workout type. There’s no time like the present to start with a simple and frugal walk to get your heart racing.


Need a beginner, intermediate, or advanced walking plan? The free eBook Frugal Food & Fitness: Get fab without spending a fortune outlines three free walking exercise plans for your workout pleasure. 


Free Printable Workout Log

**Note: there are also some GREAT apps now to keep track. But if you're a "paper person" it's good to keep a visual whether posting on your fridge, desk, etc. Wherever you will see it often,