Showing posts with label Women Empowerment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Women Empowerment. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Jada Pinkett-Smith: The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman

Jada Pinkett-Smith: “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman” -

" How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman?
The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only.

The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space.

The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes. I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome.

They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

 There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer. He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

 He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him 4 four children.

 When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul. Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

 May we all find our way.



 ~ Jada Pinkett-Smith, Sinuous Magazine

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Exercising Our Rights...

Many years I did not vote because I didn't believe in anyone running in Political office would have my best interest at heart. I felt that it didn't matter that once they were in office, public wouldn't be heard. HOWEVER....
I then realized many others before me fought for MY right as a woman to vote. Then I also wasn't in any position to comment or "complain" because I hadn't exercised my right. So two years ago - I finally did for the first time in my life and really happy with my decision!
This is a photo of Susan B. Anthony trying to vote in 1872, at that point it was illegal for a woman to vote. She was beaten and arrested for trying to do something we all take for granted today.
Do we want her efforts to be in vain?

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Are Women Too Independent?

Are Independent Women Too Strong for today's Man? Can strong women be too independent?

Should married or coupled women have their own bank accounts or does that mean they aren't committed to the marriage/relationship?

Are strong women.... married or single... TOO strong for today's man?

Should finances even play a part in relationships or does that kill the romance?

From a personal view (and know my business partner Amber feels the same), as business women we believe in having seperate bank accounts and one for house expenses. Personally for me, I much rather have it this way (though I know a lot of people ask my why).

There are many reasons and one, itt's my Independence and financial freedom. I have my own earnings and don't need to justify what personal expenses or purchases I pay. I pay for children's things (school supplies, lunches, sports, shoes, clothing, etc) and have my own business to run. I've set my own budget and if I want to buy a pair of shoes or pack of gum, I do so.

When we go for dinner, we go Dutch, or I'll treat or he'll treat. We have open communication in our relationship and trust me when I say it was a lot of growing pains and finding balance but after nine years of partnership, we've pretty much got all the kinks work out. Honestly, it causes less fights too and in my opinion, no, doesn't make me any less committed to my relationship. Money and finances are just an additional fuel and if this can be eliminated from an argument, well all the more power to you!

I am certainly in no means a relationship expert. This is what has worked for me and after speaking with other women and learning the downfalls they have had in their relationship or the same sentiments of keeping seperate accounts where partners know or they don't (guys, some hidden so don't fool yourselves thinking they're not smart cookies!), it's truly up the individual.

So, would love to hear your feedback and what you find what works and doesn't work. Creating a network and support is a wonderful thing and benefit as additional resource in today's world.

Also, from a business standpoint, don't forget that my team and I are never too busy for your referrals! If buying, selling, renting or relocating to Barrie, give me a call! Oh yeah I have to fulfill my obligations by including this disclaimer - for informational purposes to inform and provide insight. I'm not intending to solicit you and most especially if you have a written buyer agency agreement with another Realtor. Other than that....Much success in health, health and happiness!

Shannon P. Murree, Sales Representative RE/MAX Chay Realty Inc, Brokerage

"It's not just about buildings, it's building relationships"

Thursday, July 7, 2011

Ready, Willing and Able...



In a few days I will be challenging myself with a physical test.  Hitting a certain age - things become surreal and for the most part, it's just a number. In others, gentle reminders of things you set out that you want to do at certain stages of your life.


I will be participating in an event called "Warrior Dash". It's never come here to Canada. It's over 3miles or rather, over 5 km of running through rough terrain at Horseshoe Valley Resort. Not even that, it's through various obstacles that are meant to challenge you throughout the grueling course.


Laurie Watt, reporter with the Barrie Advance wrote an awesome article about it found here: 

Realtor gets down and dirty to help abused women

That's right. That's my why...I'm going to get "down and dirty" and step out of my element, my little 'box' of wearing pretty dresses, shoes, makeup nicely done, nails painted and be a WARRIOR. Warrior for those women and children caught in a daily life of suffering at the hands of an abuser. 


Abuse can be at the hands of anyone. It can affect anyone. It could be a friend, co-worker, aunt, mother, sister, daughter...anyone.


So I will wear my warrior gear, have a black eye, bruised lip and carry on and persevere through the rough terrain all the while thinking about those that feel they're stuck and can't leave. Those that are being abused mentally, physically, financially. There is another life, there is another way and even with one baby step, it is possible to flee and start a new life...just have to be a warrior!

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Quick Thoughts for the day to leave you with...

How to conquer evil with good-Buddha style:

One day a man walked up to Buddha and said insult after insult to him.

Buddha just turned to the man and said: "If someone offers you a gift and you decline to accept it, to whom then does it belong?"

The man said: "it belongs to the person who offered it."

Buddha smiled and said "That is correct. So if I decline to accept your abuse does it not then still belong to you?"

The man was speechless and walked away.

Awesome strategy to live by don't you think? Don't be afraid to decline that "gift".

Love, be loved, live your life on your terms.
Wish you much success in health, wealth and happiness :)

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Barrie Women - Are You Wealthylicious?

Women: Last opportunity for you to sign up for Barrie Wealthylicious! I have been asked to be one of the "expert" speakers on the topic of real estate investing. There are two other experts in their field/industry speaking as well. Please click on the link


It's at SuiteWorks Barrie Tues June 14th from 7-9. Investment of only $10 when you reserve online. Could change your life, your future!




A Symposium for Women, by Women, on Wealth & Wellness Creation
Join us for an exclusive seminar where you will:
  • Learn the truth about money and cash flow that no one ever told you
  • Discover 3 proven ways to increase your wealth
  • Uncover the most common myths about women and money and bust them
  • Delve into today's financial realities and discover how you can be an exception to the statistics
  • Find out how to create optimal wealth and health simultaneously
  • Understand more about Residual Income Streams and ways to create them

Presented by Game Changers International.

Tuesday, June 14th, SuiteWorks - Townhall,
 92 Caplan Ave. 
Barrie ON
7-9pm. 
RSVP is required to attend this event.
We have an amazing lineup of speakers for this incredible evening!


*Leanne Grechulk - Founder of HealthyGirl & Author of "30 Days to Wealth"
*Shannon Murree - Real estate professional, multi-faceted business woman aspiring to empower women & all people in home ownership, rentals, rent to own or real estate investing.
*Shelly Matsos - Founder of Sexy Monkey
*Brittany Prentice - Wellness Coach & Enlightened Entrepreneur





Final Day - Please Support This Cause (No Money - Just a Click to Vote!)

Help choose |New Beginnings" for the Barrie Women & Children's Shelter for The Keg's 40th Anniversary Thanks a Million Grant Program. Voting ends today, Tuesday, June 14th! Click here to vote and see below about why the money is so important!


About "New Beginnings"

'New Beginnings' will provide Transitional or Second Stage Housing for both women & children leaving the shelter & transitioning to the community or to women & children remaining in the community who are leaving abusive relationships. Housing will offer affordable, individual family apartments and the support of Outreach Services such as Housing, Legal Advocacy, Group & Individual Counselling & Safety Planning on the Base floor of the building.

There is a severe affordable housing shortage in Simcoe County. New Beginnings housing will address the sobering reality we face when a woman returns to her abuser because she is unable to manage on her own financially. This project will help families move forward with Hope and Opportunity; a New Beginning.

Barrie Police receive 137 calls a month concerning violence against women. 1 in 4 children have watched their mother being abused. 75% of these children will become perpetrators or victims of violence themselves unless there is intervention, counselling and the opportunity to move forward.

Our shelter is most often over capacity. We have approximately 1500 families access our services annually from the the Barrie community. We regularly have to move families from Women & Children's Shelter of Barrie to another shelter as they have stayed for over four months and have yet to find affordable housing in Barrie.

With this grant funding, we will renovate an existing apartment building in Barrie to provide safe and affordable housing while at the same time providing a supportive environment for families to move forward on their own in our community. Families will be able to stay for a period of up to 1 year at which time they will be able to move forward safely on their own, with continued support from our Outreach team.

Renovations will take 8 months to complete and will include enhanced security and lighting surrounding the building as well as renovations to move our Outreach staff to the building of 'New Beginnings'.

We believe in the value of each life and empowerment through respect - 'New Beginnings' will show families in Simcoe County that the community is supportive of each life. The #1 reason influencing whether a woman will leave an abusive relationship is a visible increase in the level of community support - PLEASE show your support for this initiative!

For more about the Barrie Shelter (if you or know of anyone suffering abuse or perhaps would like to make a donation) go to the http://BarrieShelter.com



Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Click...Save Some Lives, Make A Difference - Doesn't cost you a cent!


'New Beginnings' will provide Transitional or Second Stage Housing for both women & children leaving the shelter & transitioning to the community or to women & children remaining in the community who are leaving abusive relationships. Housing will offer affordable, individual family apartments and the support of Outreach Services such as Housing, Legal Advocacy, Group & Individual Counselling & Safety Planning on the Base floor of the building.

There is a severe affordable housing shortage in Simcoe County. New Beginnings housing will address the sobering reality we face when a woman returns to her abuser because she is unable to manage on her own financially. This project will help families move forward with Hope and Opportunity; a New Beginning.

Barrie Police receive 137 calls a month concerning violence against women. 1 in 4 children have watched their mother being abused. 75% of these children will become perpetrators or victims of violence themselves unless there is intervention, counselling and the opportunity to move forward.

Our shelter is most often over capacity. We have approximately 1500 families access our services annually from the the Barrie community. We regularly have to move families from Women & Children's Shelter of Barrie to another shelter as they have stayed for over four months and have yet to find affordable housing in Barrie.

With this grant funding, we will renovate an existing apartment building in Barrie to provide safe and affordable housing while at the same time providing a supportive environment for families to move forward on their own in our community. Families will be able to stay for a period of up to 1 year at which time they will be able to move forward safely on their own, with continued support from our Outreach team.

Renovations will take 8 months to complete and will include enhanced security and lighting surrounding the building as well as renovations to move our Outreach staff to the building of 'New Beginnings'.

We believe in the value of each life and empowerment through respect - 'New Beginnings' will show families in Simcoe County that the community is supportive of each life. The #1 reason influencing whether a woman will leave an abusive relationship is a visible increase in the level of community support - PLEASE show your support for this initiative click here to vote for the shelter. It doesn't cost you a penny and only a few seconds daily of your life.....it can help save lives!

Friday, June 3, 2011

Don't Be Financially Abused...

Did you know? There's another abuse of another kind you may not be aware of: Financial Abuse. What is it? 

It means having no access to the family's money. The woman may live in a comfortable house, wear good clothing, have children who are well-equipped with toys and luxuries, but have no control over what is spent or saved, over what moneys come into the family, or over any decisions about what will be bought. She is allowed no money for personal use.

From what I understand and read, it can can occur in any marriage and is often ignored because no physical harm is involved. This financial abuse is rarely discussed in therapy circles because it takes a back seat to physical, verbal or sexual abuse. Suffice it to say it can still be just as emotionally devastating to a woman.

Imagine your friend, a once vibrant woman who, when single, had a good corporate job, earned an excellent salary and had the respect of her colleagues at work. One day she meets the man of her dreams and falls in love. They get married, but little does she know that he wants her to stay home and be a full-time homemaker. She becomes pregnant even if she isn't ready to be a mother. Deep down, she feels that she is happiest when pursuing her career.

What are the signs?
  • Telling his wife to quit her job so she can stay home and take care of the kids.
  • Confiscating his wife's assets and other financial resources and forbidding her from handling money or incurring expenses that he does not allow.
  • Using his wife's financial assets to his advantage and depriving her of her rights to enjoy what is financially and rightfully hers.
  • Taking away his wife's credit cards and providing only a sufficient amount of money to pay for the day-to-day.
A variation of this economic abuse is also apparent in a relationship where the husband allows his wife to work, but regains control of her pay checque and does not give her the opportunity to make any financial decisions.

Are you in a marriage or relationship, or know of others suffering this abuse? There is a way out. Know your rights and ultimately, put yourself (and children if you have any) first. They'll learn by the lead and example you set. Be strong and if you have a daughter, would you want her to accept any less?

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Canadian Deaf Women's Conference - July 2011 - Helps to End Violence & Encourage Leadership

History
In 2001, the Canadian Association of the Deaf (CAD), a consumer advocacy for health and education organization, recognized the need to develop a national network of and for Deaf women. To address the issues and concerns identified by CAD, the first national Deaf Women’s Conference was held in Vancouver, B.C., August 13-18, 2007.  Janice Jickels, a Deaf woman leader from Vancouver, led this conference. The mandate of the newly established Deaf Women’s Conference was to provide leadership by sharing knowledge, thereby empowering Deaf Canadian women to be well informed related to health and to improve their quality of life.  
At this conference, it was recognized that women must be proactive by taking action to close the gap between the current reality and the ideal situation for Deaf Canadian women. Women also have a responsibility to communicate and share information with each other and to access information about health through sign language such as American Sign Language and langue des signes quebecoise.

Vision Statement
The Deaf Women’s Conference focuses on human rights, health, sports, education and eliminating systemic violence against women and children.
We need to empower more Deaf women to take charge through informed decision-making and creating opportunities that will help to shape their lives’ directions. What can we do to help more Canadian Deaf Women fulfill their aspirations? Critical to this process is the collective knowledge shared by influential Deaf women leaders and mentorship programs. Dialogue through sign language, personal growth, shared experiences and inspirational stories are emphasized at this national conference. Through networking, workshops, mentoring, public relations, research and development and information sharing, this conference will help address the current gap for Canadian Deaf women to be empowered.

 
The next conference sponsored by the Canadian Cultural Society of the Deaf (CCSD) will be held July 24-28, 2011 at the Hilton, Niagara Falls, Ontario. “CHERISH LIFE” is the title of the Canadian Deaf Women’s Conference, 2011.
For more information, contact Maryann Chmiel.

Source: http://www.cdwc2011.ca/en/index.html

Warrior Woman Has Fully Awoken!

 

Warrior Woman Has Fully Awoken!


This woman has been kind, gentle,
and has much love,
All of this has been given with
the blessing of the Great Spirit above,
But Great Spirit gave her something
else and she didn't know it...
The Great Spirit gave her
the blessing of being a warrior woman
as now her light is lit!

This warrior woman has come
fully alive today,
She is no longer anyone's slave or prey,
She is taking back her life today,
And those who know who she truly is,
can stay.
No longer will she live the lives of others,
She will give back the blames and responsibilities of others
where it belongs,
For she also has the bear and wolf inside her,
which is now so very powerful
and uniquely strong.

The warrior woman now knows what road she must follow,
For others it will be to hard to swallow.
Her life was taken from her unknowingly many years ago,
And this warrior woman is taking back her life before the next winds blow.

Oh Sister Moon you give me the strength
as a warrior woman to conquer what's on my path,
high above and way beneath,
and the much needed strength to take on the wrath.

This warrior woman is fully awakened and is taking a stand,
taking the problems by the horns with my hand.
I will conquer all that is there,
all and who comes as they dare.

Warrior woman has fully awoken,
and many will see that they were mistaken
in robbing her of her life.
They as a thief, Warrior woman will conquer
and have no grief!

This warrior woman will protect her people, her son,
and those who need her.
If anyone hurts them, look out!
They will hear a GGGGGGRRRRRRRRR,
As they run and shout!

This warrior woman is taking back her life,
taking back the respect that was taken from her
throughout the years ever so slow.
This warrior woman is removing pain and hurt from within the heart
caused by the knife,
from all those who are both family and foe.
I am claiming what's mine, and my dignity,
From those who live in this society of vanity.
I am claiming back in full my heritage.
And as a warrior woman, I am going to clean up
many years of carnage.
For now standing in front of you,
you see this warrior woman... you see me.
Someone special has taught me to be free,
From this day forward for me no more slavery...
Gentleness, kindness, and love is part of me, and so is my dignity.
This is not weakness, as others believe.
But this strength is within me and within you.
I will listen to the spirits and grow,
I will travel in the whispering winds as they blow.
All the work I now do will be for Our People and all nations,
I will protect and guide the future generations.
Now it is time for me to travel on my new path,
As a warrior woman conquering all wrath.
If you ever see and want to meet me,
Please come, and I will also teach and share with you how to be free.

Author: Lady J-Ann
Lady J-Ann has dedicated this piece to Survivors of Domestic Violence.

You may encounter many defeats,
but you must not be defeated.
In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats,
so you can know who you are,
what you can rise from,
how you can still come out of it.

~ Maya Angelou ~

Friday, April 1, 2011

There is Help! Shelter & Outreach Program for Women & Children - Cover Your Tracks! Tips

There is Help! Shelter & Outreach Program for Women & Children - Cover Your Tracks! Tips

How To Cover Your  Tracks - Internet Safety 

To be safe, erase any record that you have visited the Women & Children’s Shelter web site. If anyone has access to your computer, they will be able to see which web sites you have visited unless you erase your tracks.

PC Windows – Internet Explorer
(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Tools in the menu bar. Open the Internet Options Dialog Box and select the General Tab.
Step 2: In the Temporary Internet Files, click Delete Files. Check the “Delete all offline content” and click OK.

Step 3: In the History, click Clear History.

Step 4: In Temporary Internet Files, click Delete Cookies and then OK.

Step 5: Click OK to exit the Internet Options Dialog Box.

PC Windows – Mozilla Firefox
(Before closing the Browser)

Step 1: Select the Tools in the menu bar, then select the Options.


Step 2: Click on the “Privacy” Option, with the picture of a padlock.

Step 3: Select the “History” tab. Click on “Clear Browsing History Now”.


Step 4: Select the “Cache” tab. Click on “Clear Cache Now”.

Step 5: Click “OK” to exit the Options dialogue box.


PC Windows – Netscape
(Before closing the Browser)
Step 1: Select the Edit in the menu bar, then select the Preference.


Step 2: Under the Category, select Navigator. Then click Clear History as well as Clear Location Bar.

Step 3: Under Privacy & Security, select Cookies. Then click View Stored Cookies. Lastly, click Remove All Cookies.

Step 4: Under the Category, select Cache under Advanced. First click the Clear Memory Cache followed by the Clear Disk Cache.

PC Windows
(right click the mouse on the Start at the bottom of the menu bar, select Explore)

Step 1: Select Windows in the C drive.

Step 2: Open the Temporary Internet Files Folders. Select all the files inside this folder and delete.

Step 3: Open the History folder (e.g. c:\windows\history\today in Win 98), select all the files inside this folder and delete.


Step 4: Open the Cookies folder (e.g. c:\windows\cookies in Win 98), select all the files inside this folder and delete.


Step 5: Disable the Auto-Complete in the windows and/or browser options.


Step 6: Finally, after completed the above deletions, you should also empty the recycle bin.


Mac – Safari
(Before closing the Browser)

Step 1: Go to “history” tab on the main menu.


Step 2: Scroll down to “clear history”.


Mac – Firefox
(Before closing the Browser)


Step 1: Go to “preferences” under the “Firefox” tab in main menu.

Step 2: Click on “Privacy” tab then go to the “Private Data” section on the bottom.


Step 3: Click “Clear Now”.


Mac – Netscape
(Before closing the Browser)


Step 1: Go to “Edit” menu and select “Preferences”.

Step 2: Select “Navigator” under the “Category” listing.

Step 3: Select “Clear History” in the “History” area.


Step 4: Click “OK” to erase history.


Remember:
When you clear the cache and the history list, you erase ALL information that had been previously stored there. If your partner notices that the cache and history list have been deleted, he or she will realize that you know how to delete your tracks as well as possibly thinking that you have something to hide.


A way to avoid suspicion is after clearing the CACHE and HISTORY LIST spend some time visiting sites that you think your partner wouldn’t object to. This way, the cache and history list start to get filled up and your partner might be less likely to notice that old information is missing.


Email
If an abuser has access to your email account, he or she may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. If you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password that’s difficult to guess. If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing email messages, print and save the messages as evidence of this abuse and report it to police.

A woman’s partner can often tell when she makes up her mind to stop the abuse. Do not underestimate your partner. Always erase your tracks.

Telephone Safety
When you call the Women & Children’s Shelter, or any organization that assists abused women, you must be careful to use a telephone that will not keep a record of the number you called. If you call long distance, the phone number will appear on the bill. Even if you call locally, if you use an Internet-based telephone system, with a name like VOIP or SKYPE, records of the call will be kept. If your partner has access to the system he or she will be able to identify who you have called.


Cell phones can also keep records of the numbers that have been called.


A local call made on a regular telephone line will not produce a record of the call. However, many telephones have a “redial” button, and you may want to call a friend or other “safe” number after you make any call you don’t want your partner to know about – they can check up on you just by pressing “redial”.


One way to be sure your home telephone uses a regular telephone line is to check your telephone bill. It will come from a Telephone Company, such as Bell or Sprint. It will not list any local numbers, only long distance. If you still aren’t sure, you should use extra caution.


The safest way to call or to receive calls from us is from a friend’s phone, a public phone, a work phone, or any telephone that has nothing to do with your partner.


If you are in danger, call 911.

Thanks for viewing! As always, have a great day and remember to "Empower yourself and inspire change in others"

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Canada Announces "International Day of the Girl"


OTTAWA, March 8 /CNW/ - The Honourable Rona Ambrose, Minister of Public Works and Government Services and Minister for Status of Women, today announced Canada intends to support the establishment of an International Day of the Girl. The announcement was made during a meeting with young women from Plan Canada who are working to promote equal treatment and opportunities for girls around the world, including equality under the law, better nutrition and health care, equal access to education and training, and freedom from violence and abuse.

"Today on the occasion of International Women's Day, the Government of Canada is proud to encourage leadership among girls to strive for what they believe is right, and to inspire more ideas and support for girls to prosper and succeed. A girl who experiences equality has a greater likelihood of being self-confident and aware of her own potential, and of being empowered to access the education, training and career opportunities that will contribute to her success in life," said Minister Ambrose. "As Canadians we recognize that when girls have a solid foundation, with the best skills and living conditions, they can truly soar to new heights and contribute to the health of a nation. An International Day of the Girl can galvanize worldwide enthusiasm for these goals."


If adopted as a United Nations Resolution, an International Day of the Girl could be established as early as the fall of 2011. The idea was introduced to Minister Ambrose by a delegation of girls from Plan Canada at the 55th Session of the Commission on the Status of Women at United Nations Headquarters in February 2011. Plan International is promoting the establishment of an International Day of the Girl to raise global awareness of the unique challenges facing girls, as well as the key role they can play in addressing larger issues of poverty and development.


"The Day of the Girl would definitely spark discussions throughout the world about girls' rights, how girls are impacted by policies, the challenges that girls face. I would use the Day of the Girl as another opportunity to bring up the issue of girls' rights with my peers, in my community and to my leaders," said 17-year-old Rachel, a Canadian student involved in Plan Canada's Because I am a Girl Speakers Bureau.


"The Day of the Girl would be important because it would bring awareness to adults that girls are worth investing in. I think it is our right to be equal players in society and we need help to make our voices heard. We are relying on girls, boys, women and men to raise their voices on our behalf," said 11-year-old Madeleine, a Canadian student and youth advocate with Plan Canada.

Plan Canada is a non-governmental organization that aims to achieve lasting improvements in the quality of life of children, families and communities in developing countries. For more information, visit www.plancanada.ca.


To mark the 100th anniversary of International Women's Day, Canada chose as its 2011 theme Girls' Rights Matter / Les droits des filles comptent. This theme also aligns with the United Nation's theme, Equal access to education, training and science and technology: Pathway to decent work for women. International Women's Day and International Women's Week provide opportunities to mark the economic, political and social achievements of women and girls. Every year, Canadians celebrate this progress toward equality for women, and reflect on the challenges that remain.


For further information on International Women's Day and International Women's Week, visit the website of Status of Women Canada at http://www.iwd.gc.ca/.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Are Independent Women Too Strong for today's Man?

Are Independent Women Too Strong for today's Man?
  • Can strong women be too independent?
  • Should married women have their own bank accounts or does that mean they aren't committed to the marriage?
  • Are strong women.... married or single... TOO strong for today's man?
  • Should finances even play a part in relationships or does that kill the romance?
We have seperate bank accounts and one for house expenses. I much rather have it that way though I know a lot of people ask my why we do this. It's my Independence and I have my own earnings and don't feel I need to justify what expenses I pay. I pay for all the children's things (school supplies, lunches, sports, shoes, clothing, etc) and have my own business to run. I've set my own budget and if I want to buy a pair of shoes or pack of gum, I do so.

When we go for dinner, we go Dutch, or I'll treat or he'll treat. We have open communication in our relationship and trust me when I say it was a lot of growing pains and finding balance but after seven years, we've pretty much got all the kinks work out. Honestly, it causes less fights too and in my opinion, no, doesn't make me any less committed to my relationship.

Well that's my thoughts on that for now. It was late and just thought I'd blog because I couldn't sleep. Would love to hear your thoughts!



Much success in health, health and happiness!
Shannon P. Murree, Sales Representative RE/MAX Chay Realty Inc, Brokerage

Saturday, January 15, 2011

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE: Then: 1950's and Now 2011

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE: Then: 1950's and Now 2011


The following is supposedly an excerpt from a 1950's high school home-economics textbook:
    •  Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal -- on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
    • Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.  
    • Clear away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.  
    • Prepare the children: take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.  
    • Minimize all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.  
    • Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
    • Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
    • Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
    • The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Now: 2011 (Shannon's Version)
Have dinner ready: if possible, put whatever you can into the crock pot and have it on simmer so it's ready when you both get home from a long day of work. If possible, have the kids have the dinner table set and away you go to have a nice dinner! If they're old enough to make it and home before you are, even better! They have to learn how to cook sometime for when they're going to leave the house. If not, what's on the takeout/delivery menu OR if hubby is home first, ask what he's cooking.
Prepare yourself: you've had a long hard day at work or scheduling play dates, etc with the kids. Take at least 15 minutes to yourself if hubby's home and let him have the opportunity of catching up with the kids while you gather your thoughts and have some "me" time. If you can't have quiet time at home, just excuse yourself, go grab a Timmy's or Starbucks tea, juice or coffee and take a quick drive to a park or waterfront. Have a meditation CD playing quietly or just enjoy the silence.
Clear Away The Clutter: ah, everyone should take care of themselves. If they put it there, they can clean it up too. You're not a maid and they all have to learn responsibility and cleaning up! Make a chore list and have everyone scheduled to do certain chores. If you can afford it, hire a maid and you're helping to support another person and their business while they help make your life easier.
Minimize all noise: Ask Johnny to turn down the ear buds that is blaring his music and probably destroying his ear drums. Otherwise, everyone should run up to you (or dad) when you come home. If there's music on in the background, dance and say "oh yeah, let's celebrate - I'm home!" If hubby's home, great! If hubby's not home, great! Enjoy that one on one time with the kids or, just take that moment again for yourself.
Listen to him: well, if he's only going to grunt a few words when he comes home, then it won't take long. If you have to, grab a glass of wine so you can swish it in your mouth and preoccupy your mind


Make The Evening His: Go out with the girls for a "girl's night" or lock yourself in your bathroom with wine, candles, a good book and bubbles. I'm sure he can find something of his own to do. Get him the new "Maxim" or tell him the remote is all his for the night.


The Goal: to get through the fast paces that life has to offer on a daily basis with as much sanity as you can....all the while feeling a sense of accomplishment, purpose and hopefully hearing the words "thanks", "I love you mom", "I love you honey" and "you're the best"...even if you have to pat yourself sometimes. Everyone else will come around.
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Monday, December 6, 2010

Canada's National Day of Remembrance & Action on Violence Against Women

December 6 is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence against Women. On this day we remember and mourn the loss of 14 women, murdered at Montréal's École Polytechnique, murdered because they were women. Please check your local areas for events.


More than 20 years after the tragic events in Montreal, violence against women continues to be a serious issue in Canada.

On Dec. 6, 1989, a deranged gunman entered L’Ecole Polytechnique in Montreal. He segregated the female students from the male students and began firing at the female engineering students.

On that day, 14 young women lost their lives to violence. The event has become known as the Montreal Massacre and is symbolic of the fight to end violence against women. In 1991, Canada’s Parliament declared December 6th a National Day of Mourning and the National Day to End Violence Against Women.

The facts:

Violence against women continues to be a serious issue in Canada:
•It is estimated that 60% of Canadian women have suffered from physical or psychological violence at some time in their life.


•In 2007, nearly 40,200 incidents of spousal violence were reported to police. This represents about 12% of all police-reported violent crime in Canada.


•Between April 1, 2007 and March 31, 2008, approximately 101,000 women and children were admitted to 569 shelters in Canada.

We remember the 14 lives lost. And there are other numbers to remember:

•Every minute of every day, a woman or child is being sexually assaulted in Canada•Homicide is the Number 1 killer of women in the workplace


•Homicide of women by firearm has shrunk since gun control - from 144 in 1989 to 33 in 2006


•582 missing and murdered Aboriginal women (and counting)


•Women with disabilities are 1.5 to 10 times as likely to be abused as non-disabled women, depending on whether they live in the community or in institutions.


•Each week, 1 to 2 women are murdered by a current or former partner


•Up to 360,000 children in Canada are exposed to domestic violence every year


•Physical and sexual abuse costs Canada over $4 billion each year


We make a difference when we speak out against bullying, harassment and discrimination of any kind.

We make a difference when unions raise the issue of violence at the bargaining table, or advocate for effective workplace violence legislation.

We make a difference when we raise strong, compassionate children.

We make a difference when we fight for women's equality and economic security.



Here are 14 actions you can take to help end violence against women:


1.Learn to recognize the signs of violence.


2.Don’t remain silent. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused or has been sexually assaulted, gently ask if you can help.


3.Speak out against harassment, bullying and violence in your workplace.


4.Get training in violence prevention.


5.Be an ally to women and organizations who are working to end all forms of gender violence.


If happening in the workplace and Unionized, work with your union to:


1.Make sure your employer keeps information on shelters and supports for women experiencing violence readily available.


2.Negotiate a workplace violence prevention program which includes psychological harassment into your collective agreement.


3.Review your workplace violence program every December 6th.


4.If you live in a jurisdiction with Workplace Violence legislation, make sure your employer is in compliance. If you don't, advocate for legislation requiring employers to develop policies and programs to help prevent workplace violence and harassment, as well as take precautions to protect workers from domestic violence in the workplace.


Have the courage to look inward and work to:


1.Question your own attitudes and actions and work towards changing them.


2.Recognize and speak out against racism, homophobia and other forms of discrimination.


3.Raise non-violent children. Help them find non-violent ways of resolving conflict. Lead by example.


4.Help the girls in your life develop confidence and strong self-esteem.


5.Encourage people who commit violence to seek counselling and support.
 
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